Fire Talk

Our ability to connect, listen and speak truth

Sitting down around the fire (real or symbolic) we deepen our ability to connect, listen and speak truth. A Fire Talk is a moment by moment exploration of what it is like to be in connection with yourself and each other. Fundamentally, circling up around the fire requires a commitment to seeing and connection.

We practise revealing more layers of ourselves by avoiding niceties and tuning into bodily cues and awareness more precisely. Sometimes we get to hear the natural rhythm of our being more clearly and sink into an ever-present and eternal trust. Welcome home.

We intent to practice principles like owning our experience, sharing impact, using present moment (system/experiential) feedback. We commit to holding ourselves and the other in positive regard.

Benefits / Outcomes
  • Receiving or giving this particular quality of attention can be refreshing, confronting and healing.
  • Fire Talks tend to grow one’s capacity to trust oneself and one’s experience, one’s agency and self-authority.
  • A deeper feeling of connection with others and self.

A Fire Talk is led by an experienced facilitator, who will guide the conversation. The structure of the session may vary according to the facilitator’s direction, but typically consists of:

  • Welcome, housekeeping and going through agreements regarding privacy and other such factors that provide the right conditions for the practice (such as taking care of yourself, ‘no’ being actively welcomed, willingness to be coached etc.)
  • Settling down, relaxation and introductions.
  • Warm-up Games
  • Sequence of personal fire circles
  • Closing remarks and feedback

Our Fire Talks tend to last 2-3 hours. Dress warmly and bring a thermo / travel mug if you like (for your tea to stay warm).

Some pointers

Maybe, take a moment to notice to what extent you would like to understand, ‘do it/be right’, ‘know the rules’, before reading some pointers towards the way we invite you into the space.

  • It is invited to base one’s questions from what you are curious about with the other, or where our attention goes.
  • Sometimes the messy things that we share can be the most potent.
  • The felt level of connection is a good measure for which direction an exploration takes.
  • Questions that come from curiosity, with an underlying desire to know more, or understand the other are generally most effective.
  • Coaching/therapy type questions in which we try and lead one to an outcome often reduces the level of connection.